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Learn how to increase your child's ability to self-regulate, reduce their stress (and yours), and become a more empowered, connected parent.

"The instant you recognize your child isn't willfully misbehaving, but rather, that they are under too much stress, your own stress suddenly drops."

-Dr. Stuart Shanker,

Founder Shanker Self-Reg® Method

Self-Reg® can transform your parenting.

Based in the neuroscience of self-regulation and stress management, this is the parenting roadmap that you've been looking for.

Break out of the stress-cycles that keep you in overwhelm.

Understand the needs behind your child's behavior.

Learn your stressors as well as the stressors of individuals in your family.

Reduce your stress and improve your relationship with your child.

Gain confidence to navigate the day-to-day challenges of parenting.

Yes, It Really Is Possible!

Shanker Self-Reg® is a pathway to enhance resilience, motivation, learning, and well being.

INTRODUCING

Self-Reg® for Parents

A 4-week course with Parenting Educator, Betsy Lamberson

What is Self-Reg®?

Shanker Self-Reg® is a process, grounded in neuroscience, for developing growth-promoting modes of self-regulation and dealing with stress.

This 4 part class is designed to help parents learn to read, reframe, and respond to their child's behavior, strong emotions, and dysregulation, while developing the skills and strategies to support their child's overall well-being. While this class is ideal for parents of children under 8 years old, the tools that you will learn can be applied to any one with a nervous system.

The ultimate, long-term Self-Reg® goal is to help children acquire the necessary understanding of when and how to manage their own energy and tension, so they can adapt to the various stresses of life. But Self-Reg® is also personal. If we are going to support our children’s self-regulation we first have to understand our own stress and know how to manage our own energy and tension.

What's Included In Self-Reg® for Parents...

Week 1

The Science of Co-Regulation

This class uses the science of neuro-biology as a framework for better understanding the stress within our family dynamics and manage overwhelm. It focuses on practical tools that demystify the "WTF!?!" moments of parenting, including:

How to distinguish between misbehavior and stress-behavior
How the triune brain and nervous system processes stress
How and when to co-regulate with your child to get back on track

You’ll finish this class with a deeper understanding of how your nervous system interacts with those around you and how to implement co-regulation techniques in your day-to-day life.

Week 2

Recognizing Stressors

This course dives into stressors, and how excess stress affects our nervous systems and those that we love. In this lesson, you’ll learn:

The 5 domains of stress
Hidden stressors and sensory needs
Stress cycles and the multiplying effect of stressors

You’ll finish this course with a deep understanding of stress behavior and the needs behind your child's outbursts and your own. This powerful reframe will help you understand your own stressors, reducing frustration and parenting guilt, leaving you more resourced to co-regulate with your child.

Week 3

Reducing Stressors, Increasing Calm

Self-regulation is a process unique to each individual and situation. In this lesson, you’ll learn:

The difference between up-regulating and down-regulating.
How to reduce the unique stress load of your child
The best strategies for supporting individual nervous systems

You’ll finish this lesson understanding how to increase your child's sense of safety and calm within their environments and relationships. And you'll be more empowered to advocate for your own needs as well.

Week 4

Restoration and Building Resilience

Reducing stress is not enough if we don't know what it's like to experience restoration, calm and joy. In this course, you’ll learn:

How to identify what is restorative to your family members.
How to replace stress cycles with regulation cycles
How to foster your child's growth mentality and resilience

You’ll finish this course with your personal roadmap to co-regulation, stress reduction and restoration within your family.

NICE TO MEET YOU

I'm Betsy Lamberson

I am a single mother to an incredible young son and deeply passionate about supporting parents and caregivers on their journey of conscious parenting. There is a paradox of modern parenting, where so much of the focus is on the child, and the fact that a child's well-being is inextricably linked to their caregiver's is pretty ignored. I want to change that.

I am a certified facilitator of Shanker Self-Reg®, which was developed by one of the world’s leading authorities on the science of self-regulation, Dr. Stuart Shanker. Self-Reg® takes some of the most complex science of neuro-biology and polyvagal theory and breaks it down into five fundamental steps that can be executed in real life to help manage the energy and tension of not only our children, but also ourselves. Self-Reg has made me a more embodied, mindful and confident parent and I want to share it with you.

We've watched webinars, been to therapists, read books, and tried a lot of things. What Betsy's teaching and how she's teaching is what we need. She's a beacon. The lighthouse we haven't been able to find."

-Rachael B.

Ever since we worked with Betsy, I understand my son's tantrums better. He is starting to understand them now, too and it's amazing. So grateful. "

-Arantxa G.

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